Love Isn't Enough

We spend so much time looking for love, waiting for love, pretending not to be looking for love. Then once we have it we spend time trying to change the other person, looking to see if there is something better out there and sometimes we exploit what we have. Even if we don’t and we are genuinely happy sometimes love fades because as much as we like to think so, love isn’t enough. What do we do when love isn’t enough? Where do we go from here?

I always refer back to Ireland went talking about matters such as these. I was head over heels in love with someone thousands of miles away. Somehow, we made it work and even though we had our trials and tribulations and months when we didn’t speak our love was so strong that it last over the span of four years. Eventually things began to change and I realized I didn’t miss him as much as I used to. Those phone calls I would look so forward to became a chore and we began to fight, we never used to fight.

What I didn’t recognize at the time was that over time, while I did love him, we grew far apart and the distance began to feel further and further. I had many ambitions in life, many things that I wanted to do and see. I wanted to travel, see the world. He on the other hand didn’t understand why people would spend so much money on going to other countries and come back with only pictures. He also believed he lived in the most beautiful place on earth so what was the point in going anywhere else. I wanted to study, he didn’t. In the end I found that we had become completely different people and even though we loved each other it just wasn’t enough to keep us going.

When we love someone we tend to go out of our way to make things work but if we don’t see eye to eye on certain issues then there is only so much we can do before we get tired. In the end really all we can do is take solace in the fact that we have wonderful friends and family who will be there for us when we need them to be. Sometimes as much as it hurts we just have to let go because if we can make it through now when will we ever? People don’t change they only grow and if the person doesn’t grow with you but instead they grow apart from you, well then the best thing you can do is step back and let them while you move on, on your own path.

Whether we move on right away or take time for ourselves before falling head first again, we can at least rest easy knowing that one day love just might be enough, just with someone else. In the end isn’t what we are looking for something that is a relationship where loving the other person doesn’t take effort?