Something Better

As I speak to my friends and look back on my own experiences I find a trend starting to form in the men of today. A very unsettling trend... ladies and gentlemen, step right up and meet Mr. Always Looking for Something Better. Who is this man you might ask? He is the man who seems to always have a good looking girl on his arm, the man who is quite charming, the man who has far too many female friends.

While he is always attached to a beautiful girlfriend he is never quite satisfied. Around her he is the perfect boyfriend, doing everything he is supposed to do. However, once she is no longer lurking around the perfect boyfriend turns into someone I doubt she would feel the same about. You see him flirting with all the girls, make friends with them at the drop of a hat. He has that one girl he tries to impress the most, perhaps his next victim for when he is facing single life again.

I've begun to wonder, is he just Mr. Serial-Dater or is he trying to get to his ideal woman by dating the almost-ideal ones. I have two different views on this matter. Case one: He is head over heels for someone that he can't have. For various reasons, distance, timing, lack of attraction from both sides. Whatever the case may be she is unattainable to him therefore, he dates beautiful women one after the other and is constantly looking to meet new women, to see if maybe he finds someone who comes close to the one person he can't have. Case two: with all the distractions we face today and the way society has created a "disposable" view on relationships, people don't seem to be in them for the long-haul. Media constantly pounds us with stories of infidelity and why someone isn't right for us because they do not behave the way society says they should in a relationship.

It seems to me in a world where relationships seem to have lost some of the everlasting power they once had, we constantly expect that there is something better out there. Maybe sometimes we need to stop and appreciate what it is we have in front of us. If we are constantly looking for more, for better, we lose sight of what may already be there waiting for us to realize that maybe it doesn't get any better than what we already have. We need to learn to accept what we have and appreciate the person who cares for us even when we turn a blind eye to them as we continue to search for the unrealistic ideal we have built up in our minds.

If we are lucky enough to have someone by our side who cares about us and loves us, then they deserve the same in return and if we can't provide that then we have no business stringing them along so that we don't have to be alone, in the end that is what it boils down to. As scary as the thought can be sometimes it is better to be alone than to be leaving a path of broken hearts in our wake as we look for Something Better.