Escaping Passion

A wise woman once said, "Jump out the window if you are the object of passion. Flee it if you feel it. Passion goes, boredom remains". Coco Chanel, not only creative and elegant but a very intelligent woman as well.

Is she right? Should we fear passion? I often wonder if she knew something we don't. Is it just better to settle for the Average Joe who does nice things for you periodically, but does not fawn over you? I almost have to agree with her. Who doesn't like to be the object of someone's desire, but in the beginning if it is too much and over the top, well, it can only last so long before it starts to fade away or become annoying!

In my opinion, there is two ways to look at it: One, he fawns over you to get you interested and once he has your attention, once you are hooked, he stops trying as hard and you are left in the seat of the one vying for his attention! How is that fair? Then you are left questioning yourself, and confused and not feeling as confident as you did when you first met the guy! Two, he is just so crazy about you that it makes you feel smothered and uncomfortable and ultimately it pushes you away. Yes, he will do anything for you but is that really what you want?

Passion is good, but in managable, bite-sized doses! At least this way you can build a strong bond and foundation without putting all the fun and excitment and thrills right at the beginning of a relationship. Otherwise, what is left to experience? That is when boredom sets in and all the questions and concerns and the "why aren't we like we used to be" questions come in.

It is easy to say but yet we all look for that unbridled, firey passion that you just can't get off your mind. It is wonderful! But what happens when its gone? Or when it is too much? Foundations of solid relationships are not built on passion but rather the experiences they have had in their lives individually and together.

I wonder, is passion ever truly enough or is it only the truth of fairytales and fantasies? Ultimately, all you can do is be passionate about the things you do, the people you know and most importantly, be passionate about yourself and the rest will come. Don't rely on passion to create a lasting bond with Mr. Rico Suave. However, if you are lucky enough to experience unfailing passion, well then that is just fabulous, and if not, remember those wise words of Coco Chanel and just be glad that you don't have to plan your escape route!