The 21st Century Man

Henry VIII changed the face of religion in the United Kingdom for a woman. The Taj Mahal was built out of love for a woman. The Trojan race was wiped out by a war that was begun for love for a woman. Our history is litered with great men who did showed their love by extraordinary means. They showed their love in a way where we are still feeling the effect of their love being echoed throughout the centuries.

When I see these amazing things that have happened in the world's history I wonder, where did the old world sense of romance disappear to? The more I think about it the more I realize those men are very few and far between. If not only in my life but in the lives of those around me as well.

After Hours, a good looking guy, funny, good personality. The kind of guy who still baffles no matter how hard you try to understand his actions. My friend met After Hours one night and entertained the idea that he may actually be a good one, he even had me convinced he would be good for her. Then he didn't call, so we wrote him off. A week later she hears from him and he joins us along with his friends on a night out. After the night out he went back to no phone calls then suddenly he would call but always post-midnight. No to mention making plans, or atleast attemping to, but never following through.

Exhibit B, let'scall him Channing. He would contact me in the same way as After Hours would contact my friend, although, he uses the less primitive form of communication instead of calling me he would send me e-mails every couple of weeks begging to see me and professing he would do anything for me. However, when it would come down to it he would see me once then not contact me again for a few more weeks even though before leaving he would promise that all he wanted to do is be with me and want to see me everyday.

Men like Channing and After Hours baffle me. I have tried so hard to unravel this mystery along with my friends and we never seem to be able to figure it out. This is my cry to men out there.... please don't say things you don't mean! If a man tells a woman he will do something where in his mind does he think that it is O.K. to not do it without telling the woman. After discussing this with my friends and from my own thoughts on the matter we've come to the conclusion that a man should do what he says and if he can't there are ways of notifying us. It is the 21st century after all.

Men like Paris from Troy, Henry VIII and Emperor Shah Jahan knew they loved their women and they showed it in the way they knew how. When men like them could do amazing things for the women they loved then why is it so hard for a man today to just follow through with something as simple as showing up or calling. How is it that in the time we live in now, where communicating with one another has never been easier, are we finding it so hard to open the lines? Why can't we talk to one another and tell each other how we really feel? What are we afraid of? Why is it so hard to open up?