Love Thyself the Most

We are always so consumed by relationships, how to find one, once we find one how do we keep it, how to get out of one and what happens after all is said and done. While I agree that we do need to open up and give someone else the benefit of the doubt, give them the opportunity to show us who they are are. I feel there is a relationship far more important that gets overlooked all too often.

Of all the relationships that come and go out of our lives the most important relationship is the one we have with ourselves. Sometimes, well more often than not, we take this one for granted. How can we truly let ourselves love someone if we don't yet love ourselves. After a discussion with a close friend the concept of having a good realtionship with oneself seemed to be the answer we've all been looking for! Such a simple concept seemed to elude us and yet the more I think about it the more I see that this is infact the missing piece to the puzzle.

Most of the time we don't know what we want. We jump around from potential partner to potential partner and each time we come up short changed. The reason we are finding people such as St. Britain, After Hours and Channing is because we don't know what we want! We just expect that the one for us will show up and we never think that we may be the very reason for why they haven't come yet. We are constantly putting ourselves down and comparing ourselves to the Angelinas and Brads of the world. When we are not satisfyed with who we are or what we look like we simply just justify that whoever is meant for us will love us unconditionally with flaws and all. While this is true, that person will love us no matter who we are, it is only to a certain extent.

The one for us will love us unconditonally for who we are. Who we are should be someone who is happy in their skin. Someone who knows who they are and are comfortable and proud to be themselves. Why should we get into a relationship with someone else before working on the most important one, the one with ourselves? Could it be that when we accept ourselves and finally learn to love who we are is when all the questions about the opposite sex are answered? Is what we are looking for someone who is first and foremost in a stable relationship with themself? I think we are on to something. When they said "Love others well, but love thyself the most; give good for good, but not to thine own cost." maybe they were right all along and we just turned a blind eye.

Can we set aside our desire to love and be loved for a little while, while we learn to love ourselves?